tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post116304628780563564..comments2023-11-03T05:46:44.082-04:00Comments on No Mother Earth: Round and Round She GoesRun ANChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163609771024530482006-11-15T11:56:00.000-05:002006-11-15T11:56:00.000-05:00This is one of the hardest decisions in the world....This is one of the hardest decisions in the world. One of the things that made it hard for me is that everyone seems to think that kids need to be spaced two years apart--to make it easier, so that they will be friends, whatever. I just wasn't ready when Boykiddo was two so we waited. And then there came a moment that I was ready. My kids are nearly five years apart and I love the age difference. They get along great. And there are other benefits. Only one in braces at a time. Only one in college at a time. See? <BR/><BR/>I'm not telling you I think you should wait--no one can give you advice like that and I don't know how old you are and what kind of window you think you have. But trust your gut. Will you really ever look back with regret if you know that you made the best decision you could at the time?<BR/><BR/>Best of luck to you.Pieceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05619566335420317942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163218018445087112006-11-10T23:06:00.000-05:002006-11-10T23:06:00.000-05:00We always knew that we wanted plural kids, which i...We always knew that we wanted plural kids, which is a good thing because we have three of 'em. But it's a hard thing to decide and not something that anyone can really help you with. <BR/><BR/>Right now, I'm letting go of the idea of having a fourth child - my physical health is very precarious, but it's hard to give up on the IDEA of what you wanted even when it doesn't fit into the life you love. Good luck with your decision-making and sorry you had a nasty day.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163202832048919162006-11-10T18:53:00.000-05:002006-11-10T18:53:00.000-05:00It sounds like you are having a lot of the same th...It sounds like you are having a lot of the same thoughts I am right now. Things are good, so why rock the boat?<BR/><BR/>What are you studying?<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry I missed you for my party...I'm just discovering there were a few TO bloggers I missed.metro mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00461160881873679783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163196707807935432006-11-10T17:11:00.000-05:002006-11-10T17:11:00.000-05:00I so know what you mean!<A HREF="http://furtheradventuresofme.blogspot.com/2006/08/would-you-like-refill.html" REL="nofollow"> I so know what you mean!</A>kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163189019624746172006-11-10T15:03:00.000-05:002006-11-10T15:03:00.000-05:00No advice on this end either. I am sure the decis...No advice on this end either. I am sure the decision will come to you when its supposed to. There's no harm in practicising trying in the mean time :)Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163173619192571742006-11-10T10:46:00.000-05:002006-11-10T10:46:00.000-05:00It's like you dipped my thoughts out of my head an...It's like you dipped my thoughts out of my head and spread them on a page.<BR/><BR/>I'm so afraid of making the wrong decision about having another that I'm paralyzed from making a decision at all...which in fact IS making a decision.<BR/><BR/>How freaking confusing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163134826882978762006-11-10T00:00:00.000-05:002006-11-10T00:00:00.000-05:00what a gorgeously honest post. i couldn't even pl...what a gorgeously honest post. i couldn't even plan the first, let alone the second. i have no advice, except clearly, you will do what is best for you and your family - it's clear from how you are knocking it around in your head and heart.Girlplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07056576921114387218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163131723011502762006-11-09T23:08:00.000-05:002006-11-09T23:08:00.000-05:00we've gone back and forth on this many, many times...we've gone back and forth on this many, many times. are we ready? don't know. can we handle it? don't know. but we're gonna do it anyway.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163118327655887882006-11-09T19:25:00.000-05:002006-11-09T19:25:00.000-05:00DUDE. I just wrote about this, JUST NOW. I'm total...DUDE. I just wrote about this, JUST NOW. <BR/><BR/>I'm totally confused. I used to be pertty certain, now - not so much.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163108907388959472006-11-09T16:48:00.000-05:002006-11-09T16:48:00.000-05:00Oh...wow...I wish I had something good to say. Hel...Oh...wow...I wish I had something good to say. Helpful I mean.<BR/><BR/>Yes, you nailed it. It's a very personal decision. Each person has to make it on his and her own, and then you have to come together in a relationship and discuss and decide.<BR/><BR/>The decision was taken out of our hands, in a manner of speaking. Our children...we had to decide not just to TTC, but to TTC medically with multiple medical professionals and pay loads and loads of money.<BR/><BR/>I can't explain why we did it twice. I could talk for hours about it, but I can't explain it.<BR/><BR/>I guess...it's really only knowing having siblings and knowing how much my siblings mean to me.<BR/><BR/>I'm one who will saying that for us going from 0 kids to 1 kid was a breeze. We'd been 2 people for so long (about ten years) and had been ready to be a family of 3 for so long that when it finally happened it was like the perfect honeymoon...winning the grand prize. We floated ecstatically for a long time. It all felt very natural and happy, like you describe.<BR/><BR/>Our pain point was going from 1 kid to 2 kids. That didn't feel natural or easy and the transition (ongoing still I believe because the youngest changes so much in the first two years) is challenging. <BR/><BR/>Then...they are SISTERS. Really. And the love there, the love they share is...amazing.<BR/><BR/>Even when they fight.<BR/><BR/>Or so I tell myself, over and over and over.<BR/><BR/>;)<BR/><BR/>Good luck!!<BR/><BR/>You aren't alone!<BR/><BR/>P.S. The choice to have a third? I pretty much accept it isn't necessarily a choice for me. With my "advanced maternal age" and infertility background, I know it isn't likely. And we won't go through treatment again. Still, I feel a mixture of regret and relief.Julie Pipperthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03169574697104642479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163108617400688142006-11-09T16:43:00.000-05:002006-11-09T16:43:00.000-05:00No real advice here, either. I can only say that ...No real advice here, either. I can only say that my husband and I made the decision to try for number two when our boy turned one last spring, under the questionable theory that close in age would be good, right? Our scary plan seems to have worked: number two is due in early March....<BR/><BR/>The real question will kick in for us in a couple of years: we're having another boy. I would love to have a little girl, too. But the thought of having three is very, very daunting. We probably won't go there.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31817632.post-1163083000677865392006-11-09T09:36:00.000-05:002006-11-09T09:36:00.000-05:00I've got no good advice here - for me, having a se...I've got no good advice here - for me, having a second child never felt like a decision or a choice: I always knew I would try, and figured I'd better start trying as soon as possible. <BR/><BR/>When it comes to a third child, that's another matter. Hubby would like a third child, in some ways, whereas I don't think I'm up for it. He likes to tease me about it: after the ultrasound showed that the Pie would be a girl, he said, "Well, I guess we have to tell little Wes [our boy name], 'Sorry, buddy, but you don't get to be born!'"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com